The quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships with others. Relationships are a great source of happiness and contentment, but can also lead to suffering and sorrow. When we have problems in our most important relationships, it is difficult to find joy in other things.
Research conducted in the field of couple psychology shows a mutual connection between depression and marital dissatisfaction. In other words, problems in the relationship contribute to depression and vice versa.
For many people it is difficult to accept the idea that depression is a real problem. It happens because this disorder alters negatively the perception and makes reaching a real more difficult couple satisfaction. Can depression interfere with your relationship and prevent you from having the healthy and loving relationship you deserve? Let’s look closer.
Obviously I’m depressed, my life sucks!
Unlike physical illness, depression does not announce its arrival with obvious symptoms. In fact, it takes you to survive through microscopic chemical changes in the brain, a little at a time, day after day. Depression is ingrained in many people without being recognized until they change in their way of thinking, feeling, and acting. Without realizing that depression affects the perception of things, those who suffer from it are tempted to trace in unsatisfactory living conditions the main cause of her misery. Be aware of the difference between Jenny’s following statements.
Depression and relationships
Depression encircles our world in a dark cloud of fog that fills our life with doubts and suffering. It influences our judgment and our energies and makes it almost impossible to appreciate the various aspects of life. Since depression affects safety and self-esteem, the way in which we interpret relationships with others is also altered. Whoever suffers is questioned, blames and becomes very sensitive to criticism. Depression weakens motivations and energy and makes us doubt about our value at work / school and in relationships. As a result, we hate our work, we think the partner is insensitive, that life is disgusting! Take a look at the table below where I tricked the symptoms of depression by linking them to lesser known examples of how they can affect relationships.
|Symptoms of depression||Symptoms in the report|
|1. Sadly sad, “empty” or anxious for most of the day, almost every day.||The subject moves away from the partner, does not communicate, is disinterested or has a constant need for reassurance by their partner and often worries that his feelings may change, fearing to be abandoned without a reason.|
|2. Reduced interest and ability to enjoy the most common experiences, including sex.||Decline in interest in sex, distrust of partner affection.|
|3. Low energy, tiredness and “slowness”.||Lack of push and energy that prevents normal couple activities, such as shopping together or ending home projects.|
|4. The subject presents changes in sleep and sleep patterns or needs to sleep more or sleep too much.||The subject has difficulty falling asleep overnight and has serious problems awakening. Over-sleep causes delays in work or loss of working hours. The need to rest during the day takes time to devote to the relationship.|
|5. Changes in nutrition that can cause increased appetite and weight gain or, conversely, a loss of appetite and weight. Increases the desire for foods rich in carbohydrates / fat, especially at night.||The subject lets go to the binge, hides the food, eats in secret.|
|6. Irritable mood. The subject is often annoyed by situations and people who would not normally be disturbed.||The subject is oddly critical and offensive to the partner. It tends to blame your partner or to start discussions. Often, he has sudden anger rage and frustration for futile reasons|
|7. Difficulties in concentration and making decisions. Poor motivation and difficulty in leading to routine task terms.||The subject devotes most of the time to TV, video games, porn sites, and other distractions that take time to devote their responsibilities.|
|8. Sensations of despair and pessimism.||Refusal or distrust of the partner’s love, to his intentions and his affectionate demonstrations.|
|9. Increased consumption of alcohol and drugs, which causes a change in previous behavior||Increasing consumption causes problems in the relationship. It devotes more time to substance abuse than to the relationship. Consumption is hidden.|
|10. The subject is extremely sensitive to rejection.||The subject is very jealous, sensitive to criticism and rejection, has very strong reactions.|
|11. Improved mood / reactivity||The subject is able to excite and be happy about events, holidays or spending time together with certain people. The suffering person can manifest his enthusiasm for a vacation but, towards the end of the same, depressed feelings return unpleasant on the last day of vacation.|
If you can identify five or more symptoms, depression is likely to damage your relationship. But, even if it takes a lot of courage to recognize its symptoms, only a mental health practitioner can diagnose it. The good news is that you can do something right away by contacting your doctor to talk about it.
This connects us with another important issue. You may be sorry to talk about symptoms to your doctor or maybe you feel guilty about the problems that afflict you. Remember, you did not choose to feel that way and you are not the cause of so much trouble. Deciding to contact your doctor is the first step to regaining your mental and emotional health. In this way, you will have the strength to prevent depression from ruining your relationships. So, head up, be proud of yourself for having found the courage to overcome a problem that is underestimated too often.
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